hey, thank you very much for the detailed, thoughtful response. I absolutely felt for you as I read your experiences, and I'm glad you feel you can articulate, and do so with such coherence, what you went through.
I enjoyed reading your take on how becoming a feminist helped with your recovery (love the term mindful masculinity) with the 'female warrior spirit' - in regards to your last paragraph, that's sound advice. Listening to people's point of view/struggles opens up so many more lines of communication and cohesion between groups, and hopefully stops the formulaic 'one empowers the other'. Listen and reason.
Thanks again for taking the time to write something at length in response to my work, I'm glad you could connect with it in some way.